Technically, RSVP is an abbreviation of the French phrase "Répondez s'il vous plaît." Translated it simply means "reply, if you please".
The more lax term "Regrets Only" means just what it says - "Don't call us unless you are NOT coming to the party and if you don't call, we expect to see your smiling face the day of the event". This is a relative new term and can cause a whole new set of problems.
You really expect people to call if they can't come to your event?
It's hard enough to get anyone to respond to an invitation's printed "RSVP to 555-2934" with a "Yes, we're coming" or "No, we're not coming".
To get an answer even with self-addressed, stamped envelopes to return a "fill-in-the-blank" response card, a respond by date, phone numbers to call, or email addresses to write a quick "yes" or "no" is next to impossible today, but seriously, "Regrets Only"?
Some hosts misunderstand and believe a Regrets Only response will be easier on them and tons of people won't have to call and leave messages about the party, only the people not coming.
Do you really think they'll call if they can't come?
Don't use "Regrets Only" when:
You positively, absolutely need to know if anyone is coming to the party.
* You need a final headcount to pay the the caterer, bartender, party rental place and you can't get a refund if you have no-shows.
* You'd rather not eat the costs of no-shows' goodie bags, favors, you get the picture.
* You're eight year old drama queen will just die if she doesn't know who's coming to her party.
* You'll panic a few days before the party and call or email everyone anyway to see who's coming.
So what are you to do?
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